Know Your Position!

Hey everyone. 

This is my weekly blog posting.  I will post a letter from a reader weekly where I will try to address the situation they share in their letter.  Here goes.  I received a letter from Deanna from Jersey, here’s what she has to say:

Hello William Truth,

     I have been dating this guy for about a year.  He has never said that he wanted to have a committed relationship with me but I stay over a lot.  We don’t really go out other then just his place.  Here lately he has not had time for me.  I think he is seeing other people.  I did confront him about it but all he said was that we are not committed.  He told me he did not have time to talk about this and that he would get back to me next week sometime.  Next week sometime?  What does that mean? I know he has a demanding job and he is really busy, but I think if I don’t pressure him he will come around.  I don’t want to leave him and lose what we have and the time we have invested. 

What do I do?   

Signed,

Frustrated!

Dear Frustrated,

You have been dating this man for 1 year but you are not committed right?  First know your position which is that you don’t have anything with this guy.  In other words you don’t have a position.  Although you have been staying over and have been doing it for a year, it means absolutely nothing to him.  You can’t make demands on someone that you have nothing with.  Remember, he already told you that he is not committed.    Sometimes we confuse length of time spent with someone with a relationship and that’s just not the case.  Activity does not equal relationship.  See it for it really is, not what you want to see or what you want it to be.  As they say; it is what it is:  Just time spent, that’s it.

Signing out WT

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